Expensive Taste in Material Things; but Poor Taste in Dating
By: Dr. Corey Guyton
We live in a world where people buy items that are beyond their financial means so they can appear to have a certain status in society. This is in the form of women working tireless hours to be able to afford a pair of Christian Louboutins or men doing whatever it takes to buy a pair of retro Jordans. If you asked these individuals to buy cheaper or lower quality shoes, you may escape with only getting cussed out, because I am pretty sure they would refuse to wear anything that was not of quality.
Contrarily, we live in a society where some people do the opposite in terms of dating. Instead of dating people of quality, many of us settle for low quality people and date below our value. This is why we see men and women who are on paths of success dating people who are doing absolutely nothing with their lives. The problem is that when you choose to settle for less quality, you risk being affected by the lack in quality.
For example, if you purchase low quality…
- earrings, you risk getting an ear infection
- furniture, it may only last a few years
- car parts, you may find yourself stranded on the side of the road
- cameras, you get low resolution pictures.
Similarly, when you settle for a low quality significant other, you risk having low quality results in your relationship and this could ultimately affect you. It is my belief that couples who are not on the same level will result in one person pulling the other person in their direction. Many people would argue that this is what happened to the late great Whitney Houston.
Side note: By no means am I suggesting that your mate has to make the same amount of money as you or they have to have a certain academicdegree. What I mean is that they should be working toward similar goals, they should be equally yoked spiritually, and they should have similar drive and ambition.
The bottom line is that we have to treat our relationships similar to the way we treat materialistic things. We have to set high standards and not waiver on them. What happened to demanding the best? If you end up with a lower quality person, you may end up with low quality results and risk being scarred for life (i.e.- heartbreak, depression, mental abuse, verbal abuse, drug addiction, STDs, etc).
Moral of the Article: Get someone on your level!